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Melissa Schorr | February 4, 2008
Nine perfect 10s...just missing that special one.
Vital stats: 47, Noe Valley
Hot because: She's one of the nation's top modern architects.
"I feel like I'm too old to be dating," groans Fougeron. "I've already done the things that have a lot to do with why people get married, like have a kid." Divorced for five years and with a teenage daughter, Fougeron runs her own award-winning architecture shop in the Mission. She relishes her independence and so far has been underwhelmed by the local dating scene. "It doesn't seem evolved, sophisticated," she says. "The issues—like who calls who—are issues you should be having at 15, not 45. I can't understand the rules, much less care about them." Still, she admits, "it's nice to have a warm body. I fundamentally have to be with somebody emotionally." Her advice: "The main thing is pay attention. I like people who don't need a reason to call—but do anyway. I find that endearing."
Renoir "the Vinyl Archeologist Salgado
Vital stats: 31, Western Addition
Hot because: He runs San Francisco's coolest club party.
Salgado says his mission is to preserve positive hip-hop culture and that his ideal mate would support that crusade. At the very least, "she's got to tolerate my music." Salgado's passion is True Skool, which is a musical genre, a website, and a Rosetta stone for local dance culture. Salgado's Friday-night party at Storyville in San Francisco was named "Best Place to Keep It Real and Jiggy at the Same Time" by the Bay Guardian. In spite of the street cred—not to mention the dimples and sideburns—Salgado's still solo. "It'd be good to find someone I could kick it with," he says. "My goal is to have a relationship, not get hitched. But if I find the person, who knows?" What's on his wish list? "Someone down-to-earth. And voluptuous wouldn't be bad."
Dr. Michael Geschwind
Vital stats: 39, Noe Valley
Hot because: He's one of the sharpest minds in neurology.
You may win the good doctor's heart, but don't count on a diamond engagement ring. "It's an artificial symbol made up by society," scoffs the iconoclastic neurologist, a rising star at UCSF's Memory and Aging Center who specializes in ailments such as the human form of mad cow disease. Ick. But that's not why he's single, he says. He's just too picky. "I get bored easily.
I can't make up my mind what I want." Meeting women is a snap, though, says the gregarious Geschwind. "I've definitely gotten numbers on Muni." The trouble is finding someone who can keep up, whether he's backpacking in Cambodia,teaching tae kwon do, or campaigning against nuclear weapons. "My life is pretty exciting," he says, "and they have to want just as much from life." Couch potatoes need not apply. "The women I date are usually brighter than I am."
Vital stats: "Thirtysomething," Oakland hills
Hot because: She's Prince Andrew's new conquest.
You never know when Prince Charming might walk into the room. Just ask
Cynthia Gouw, who's been parrying the flirtations of England's Prince Andrew since they met at a dinner party at the Clift Hotel last year. "I spilled a cosmo on myself," recalls this reluctant Cinderella and El Cerrito native. "Everyone at the table was mortified, but he thought it was hysterical. I guess he thought I was a wacky girl." Since then, Randy Andy
(as he's known back in Britain) has been wooing Gouw with "sweet" emails and trips across the pond for intimate rendezvous. Well, as intimate as two people can get when one of them is accompanied by an entourage of assistants and bodyguards. "It's hard to have privacy," Gouw says with a sigh. "We manage, but it's hard." Gouw simply doesn't see a fairy-tale ending. "I'm too pragmatic," she says. "He lives in London; my life is here. While he's a tremendous person, I'm looking for someone I can have a normal life with. I want my relationship to flourish and not be analyzed by strangers." But how's some local guy supposed to compete with royalty? "Men find me intimidating—they assume I'm unattainable," Gouw
concedes. And her requirements are indeed stiff: "Dynamic, caring,
confident, with joie de vivre, intellectually curious, funny, and devastatingly sexy." That said, there's still hope for commoners. Gouw has a history of turning her back on glamour to follow her heart. She walked away from gigs as a Parisian model and a Hollywood starlet to be a TV reporter in Bakersfield. She's currently a reporter for KQED radio's Pacific Time. One sure way to get Gouw's attention: "Direct eye contact—that moment your eyes connect and there's nothing else in the room. That completely slays me."
Vital stats: 44, Ashbury Heights
Hot because: Her dad, Willie, has the key to the city.
The mayor's daughter has her own agenda. "I do not like being single at all," she says. "I'm definitely looking." The movie buff even has a clear vision of her wedding day: "A beautiful In Style Italian-country wedding," she narrates dreamily, "like one of Francis's movies." Back home after two decades spent producing TV commercials in New York, Brown is optimistic she can finally make her bridal screenplay happen. "In New York, people can live happily single forever. But in San Francisco, men are more family oriented." So why is this mover and shaker still on the market? "Because I haven't met the right guy. My friends say it's because I don't get outside of my social circle. One said, ‘Go with your father to every opening, because you will meet somebody.' If I dated as successfully as my father," she chuckles, "I'd probably be married by now."
Vital stats: 38, Pacific Heights
Hot because: She gets invited to all the best high-society parties.
Singlehood is a catch-22, Keehn says. "Men are attracted to me because I'm independent; then they realize, ‘Hey, she doesn't need me.'" But a partnership is growing more likely as she spends less time making Emmy Award- winning documentary films and directing the West Coast bureau of Gloria Steinem's Voters for Choice and more time writing her memoirs and singing with her jazz band. "I've spent my life trying to make the world a better place," explains the socially conscious society maven. "Now I want to be more introspective. Being in a long-term relationship may be more interesting. I'm ready to have that experience. Women in San Francisco complain there are no men," says the head of the city's Commission on the Status of Women, "but I've not found that to be the case. I do what I do, and they come into my life."
Vital stats: 47, Pacific Heights
Hot because: He's got a really big hedge fund.
Stock whiz Wiggins is still looking for a long-term investment. "My friends don't get it—they think my attributes line up pretty well," he says. Single again after a 12-year relationship, Wiggins's assets include a Santa Fe retreat and a social conscience—he's a board member of the AIDS Memorial Grove and Project Inform. "I'm passively looking," he says of his personal status. Translation: There are still places Wiggins won't go with his poodle, Woodrow. "I've never walked down Castro Street with a dog," he laughs. "It feels so obvious—like trolling with a fishing line." What he's looking for in a partner is "somebody who can stop dead in their tracks to look at a sunset. I thought that was standard equipment, but it's not." Wiggins retired a few years ago but recently started a biotech hedge fund. Despite his imposing six-foot-five stature, "I'm a big old marshmallow," he says. "Once somebody has entered my heart, they're there."
Vital stats: 34, Peninsula
Hot because: She's the sexiest host on local TV.
"I thought I'd be married with kids by now," admits Nubla, who's back on the singles scene after a five-year relationship. But in spite of constant clucking from her family, "I don't feel any pressure," claims the cohost of KPIX's Evening Magazine. "It's freedom time for me." The real challenge now, she says, is sorting the suitors from the stalkers. "You can tell they're crazy when they keep sending their picture—over and over again." No surprise, then, that her favorite pickup line is "Malou who?" Any guy who wants to tune in Nubla's affection has to have a solid bond with family and friends, she says. "Good relationships are the key to a good man. A man who has great relationships—that's the kind of man I want. Because that's what I'm going to have with him."
Vital stats: 25, North Beach
Hot because: He stands to inherit the Dolby Labs fortune.
For this sound-system heir, marriage is a barely audible drumbeat. "Everyone is on their own clock," Dolby says. "At this age, I'm not needy for someone all the time. But I don't think I'd be a bad catch." No kidding. David is the son of entrepreneur Ray Dolby, whose privately held Dolby Laboratories brings in $120 million a year. In other words, he could quit his day job, which is project manager at netVmg, a Fremont-based software company. Off-hours, Dolby can be found at his bachelor pad in a converted malt house in North Beach, at his Tahoe ski chalet, or aboard his sailboat in Sausalito. Does he have any flaws? Well, there's the beard. And "I'm stubborn," he admits. "When I'm holding my position in some argument, I won't back down." As for a mate, this amateur flier is hoping for a copilot who's willing to take risks. "Before they were married, my parents took an overland trip, driving from India to the U.K. in a VW Bug," he says. "By the end, my dad recognized my mom could handle a trip like that—and married her. My date has to at least survive a trip out on the boat."