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Love Thy Neighbor(hood): Temescal vs. Palo Alto

In other places, singles are willing to get in a car or a cab and travel miles to meet and mate. In economically stressed San Francisco, it’s hard to find anyone willing to date off their Muni line. Transit limits mean that each neighborhood has evolved its own dating culture and rules. Here's a cheat sheet.

TEMESCAL

The Singles:
Twentysomethings on bikes; thirtysomethings who like the low-key vibe (it’s not Valencia…yet); fortysomethings who moved in before it was cool (or relatively safe).

Where to Find ‘em:
Having drinks at Kingfish; standing in line for fried-chicken sandwiches at Bakesale Betty’s; taking art classes at Studio One; ogling the root vegetables and sipping Blue Bottle at the Sunday morning farmers’ market.

Typical First Date:
Brunch at Mama’s Royal Café or the Mixing Bowl, scoops at Scream Sorbet.

More Than Just a Hookup:
Doing laps together at the salinated Temescal pool; sitting down at Pizzaiolo or Doña Tomas.

Isn’t It Cheap/Romantic:
An easy early-morning bike ride and picnic at Lake Temescal; then a leisurely afternoon of browsing/showing off your musical chops at 1234 Gorecords.

(S)he’s Just Not That Into You:
Coffee at Golden Gate Donuts, then a mumbled excuse about not wanting to miss your Bart train.

How Far For Love?
Bike or Bart to Berkeley or the Mission (but only on weekends or noncommute hours); Rockridge is nearby but filled with families (possibly including Mom and Dad).
-T.W.

PALO ALTO

The Singles:
Late 20s to mid-30s startup engineers and gamer types with lots of disposable income (yearly salary averages $121K for men, $83K for women).

Where to Find ‘em:
Yoga and exercise classes at the Decathlon Club; Old Pro; Nola’s; the Office in redwood City (if you’re looking for a guy).

Typical First Date:
Coffee at Coupa Café in Palo Alto, Cascal on Castro street in Mountain View, or Bonsai in Menlo park.

More Than Just a Hookup:
Drinks and dinner at Joya.

Isn’t It Cheap/Romantic:
Cantor Art museum and the sculpture garden; hiking at the Dish.

(S)he’s Just Not That Into You:
(S)he stops texting just long enough to yawn.

How Far For Love?
Everyone has a car, so Fremont or even Oakland is totally doable for the right person.
-C.F.

 

 

THE MIDDLE GROUND

Both these groups should be used to commuting by now, so the city is actually the most neutral territory. 

More on neighborhood romance:
The Marina vs. The Mission
Russian/Nob Hill vs. NoPa
SoMa vs. The Sunset

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