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Affinities: Trust and Trussed

When intimacy, consent, and sensuality 
are all tied together.


Violette tied by Kanso

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Gray tied by Blue

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JB tied by MzFur

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RopeGyver tied by Nawaji

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Toni tied by BoatBabe

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Barbary Rose tied by Jack HammerXL

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SatineAngelic tied by 

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Kat tied by MrKiltYou

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Evie Vane tied by The_Facilitator

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Kevilicious tied by Waldemar Horwat

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“Sometimes it takes a lot more trust to let someone tie you than have sex with you,” says MrKiltYou, one of the organizers of the Bay Area Rope Exchange. Started in 2014 as an online group for people who love rope bondage—the erotic act of tying someone up or letting yourself be tied up—it quickly became an IRL club, with four to five events a year attended by around 100 people ranging in age from 18 to senior citizenry.

This month they’ll put on a large demonstration at the Folsom Street Fair, as they do every year. Rope bondage doesn’t have to be explicit: Sometimes it’s for purely decorative purposes, and there is a performance and artistry to the craft—it can take up to an hour to complete a complicated tie.

Evie Vane, another group organizer and a dedicated tie-ee, explored the brain chemistry of rope bondage in her book Better Bondage for Every Body. “You’re experiencing all these emotions and hormone floods that you might not get from just having sex with somebody,” Vane says. “It’s very raw and powerful.”


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